Funeral Preparation and Pastoral Care of the dying at Our Lady of Perpetual Help
Ministries we Provide
◿ Anointing for the Dying and Spiritual Guidance for loved ones of the dying*
◿ Funeral Mass and Graveside Service
◿ Spiritual Guidance for grieving persons*
*The Pastor, Deacons, and Director of Religious Education are available to help talk through the personal spiritual struggles that can arise from losing a loved one. Please note, however, that these individuals are not counselors or psychologists and that they may recommend to a person seeking guidance that a professional counselor or psychologist may need to be sought out for further assistance.
The Funeral Process at OLPH
- After the initial meeting with your funeral director, he or she will give OLPH a phone call to inform us of your desire to host a funeral in our Church. Soon after that initial contact you will be contacted by either our Church Secretary or Director of Liturgy to schedule a planning meeting for the funeral liturgy. You may also be contacted by a volunteer of our luncheon ministry if you indicate to your funeral director or our staff that you wish to host a luncheon at OLPH. With a luncheon there are details you should be aware of that can be viewed by clicking here.
- Planning the funeral liturgy will be done during a meeting with our Director of Liturgy. To help with planning the funeral liturgy of your loved one we have provided suggested readings, petitions, and songs as well as a sample worship aid for you to review prior to the meeting. They can be found by clicking on the links below. Please know that due to time constraints we may not be able to provide a worship aid for every funeral.
The Purpose of the Church’s Funeral Liturgy and Rites
Christians celebrate the funeral rites to offer worship, praise, and thanksgiving to God for the gift of a life which has now been returned to God, the author of life and the hope of the just. The Mass, the memorial of Christ’s death and resurrection, is the principal celebration of the Christian funeral. Through the funeral rites the Church commends the dead to God’s merciful love and pleads forgiveness of their sins. At the funeral rites, especially at the celebration of the eucharistic sacrifice, the Christian community affirms and expresses the union of the Church on earth with the Church in heaven in the one great communion of saints. Though separated from the living, the dead are still at one with the community of believers on earth and benefit from their prayers and intercession. At the rite of final commendation and farewell, the community acknowledges the reality of this separation and commends the deceased to God. In this way it recognizes the spiritual bond that still exists between the living and the dead and proclaims its belief that all the faithful will be raised up and reunited in the new heavens and the new earth, where death will be no more.
Our Lady of Perpetual Help Bereavement Ministers act on behalf of the parish to extend consolation and compassion to the families of the deceased in our community. We are not a support group. We introduce ourselves at the funeral home to the family and present them with a sympathy card from Our Lady of Consolation Shrine in Carey, Ohio which will enroll the deceased for a year of masses. We have a member present at the onset of the funeral mass to assist families with direction, etc. We provide information on support groups if there is a need. We maintain contact for one year with the family contact through cards and telephone calls. The most significant of our mission is our involvement in the All Souls Service liturgy on the 1st Sunday of November during the 11:00am Mass. We also sponsor a Remembrance Tree during Advent. Angels are made with the names of those deceased in the past year and placed on the Remembrance Tree. A remembrance bookmark is also mailed to the families at the beginning of advent. At the one year anniversary of the death, we send a One Year Anniversary of Death card.
As ministers of consolation our duties are not complicated, but they do require a prayerful and compassionate person who can be sensitive to the grief that comes with someone is called forth from this world.
We are able to accomodate a luncheon of up to 75 people. If you are interested in having a luncheon at Our Lady of Perpetual Help please indicate that to your funeral director and volunteers from our funeral luncheon committee will be in contact with you. Please continue reading for important details regarding a luncheon.
Funeral Luncheon Policies and Guidelines
- The family is asked to provide the main course. Typically that would mean a meat of some kind and a bread. Our volunteers will provide paper products, beverages, side dishes, and desserts.
- For a luncheon to be provided the funeral liturgy or service must take place at OLPH. Strictly funeral home services do not qualify for a luncheon.
- For a luncheon to be provided the deceased must be a registered parishioner of OLPH.
- For a luncheon to be provided there must be a minimum of 20 people and no more than 75.
- Funeral luncheons are only held in our meeting rooms. For logistical reasons the cafeteria and gym are not made available.
- We are sometimes asked if our funeral luncheon committee will help to serve or set up at on offsite location. Out of respect for our volunteers and their ministry the Church only asks that they volunteer for luncheons held at OLPH.
- Out of respect for our school families and volunteers the family and guests are asked to leave the building by 2:30pm.
- Please know that there may be times when it is not possible to hold a luncheon at OLPH for various logistical and scheduling reasons.
- We are a no smoking campus.
Suggested Funeral Readings
A Catholic Funeral follows the same format as regular Sunday Mass and includes one reading from the Old Testament, one reading from the New Testament, and one reading from the Gospels.
*Other Scripture passages can be presented to the presider for approval.
**Non-Scripture readings cannot be read in place of these readings, but could be used in the worship aides or through some other means.
Commonly Used Readings
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|2 Maccabees 12:43-46 “…he made atonement for the dead…”
Job 19: 1, 23-27 “…I know that my vindicator lives….
“Ecclesiastes 3:1-15 “…A time to be born, a time to die…
“Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 “…A time to be born, a time to die…
“Wisdom 3:1-9 “…The souls of the just are in the hand of God…
“Wisdom 3:1-6,9 “…The souls of the just are in the hand of God…”
Wisdom 4:7-14 “The Righteous One, though he die early, shall be at rest…”
Sirach 2:1-11 “…in fire gold is tested….Compassionate is the Lord…”
Isaiah 25:6a, 7-9 “…he will destroy death forever…”
Isaiah 26:7-19 “…your dead shall live, their corpses shall rise…”
Isaiah 35:1-10 “…Here is your God, he comes with vindication…”
Isaiah 40:1-11 “…Here is your God, Here comes with power…”
Lamentations 3:17-26 “…My portion is the Lord, says my soul…”
Ezekiel 37:12-14 “O my people, I will open your graves and have you rise…”
Daniel 12:1-3 “…the wise shall shine brightly…”
Micah 7:7-9 “…though I sit in darkness, the Lord is my light…”
|Acts of the Apostles 10:34-43 “Everyone who believes in him will receive forgiveness of sins”
Acts of the Apostles 10:34-36,42-43 “Everyone who believes in him will receive forgiveness of sins”
Romans 5:1,5-11 “…We were reconciled to God through the death of his Son…”
Romans 5:17-21 “…through one righteous act acquittal and life came to all…”
Romans 6:3-9 “…if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall live with him…”
Romans 6:3-4,8-9 “…if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall live with him…”
Romans 8:1-11 “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ…”
Romans 8:14-23 “Those who are led by the Spirit of God are Children of God”
Romans 8:31-35,37-39 “If God is for us, who can be against us?”
Romans 14:7-9,10-12 “This is why Christ died and came to life”
1 Corinthians 2:6-10 “Eye has not seen, and ear has not heard…”
1 Corinthians 15:12-20 “If there is no resurrection of the dead…”
1 Corinthians 15:20-28 “In Adam all die, so too if Christ shall all be brought to life.”
1 Corinthians 15:51-57 “Death where is your victory?”
2 Corinthians 4:14-5:1 “The one who raised the Lord Jesus will raise us…”
2 Corinthians 5:1,6-10 “We would rather leave the body and go home…”
Philippians 3:7-14 “…I run toward the prize to which God calls me…”
Philippians 3:20-21 “He will change our lowly body…”
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 “If we believe that Jesus died and rose…”
2 Timothy 2:8-13 “Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead…”
2 Timothy 4:1-2,6-8 “I have competed well, I have finished the race…”
1 John 3:1-2 “Beloved, we are God’s children now…”
1 John 3:14-16 “We know that we have passed from death to life…”
Revelation 14:13 “…Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord…”
Revelation 20:11-12:1 “…The sea gave up its dead; then Death and Hades…”
Revelation 21:1-5a,6b-7 “…I also saw the holy city, a new Jerusalem…”
|Matthew 5:1-12a “The Eight Beatitudes”
Matthew 11:25-30 “come to me . . . and I will give you rest.”
Matthew 25:1-13 “Look. The bridegroom comes. Go out to meet him”
Matthew 25:31-46 “Come, you whom my Father has blessed”
Mark 15:33-39 “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
Mark 15:33 —16:6 “Jesus gave a loud cry and breathed his last”
Luke 7:11-17 “Young man, I say to you, arise.”
Luke 12:35-40 “Be prepared, for at an hour you do not expect,…”
Luke 23:33-43 “Today you will be with me in paradise.”
Luke 23:44 —24:6a “Father, I put my life in your hands.”
Luke 23:44-49 “Father into your hands I commend my spirit”
Luke 24:13-35 “Was it not necessary that the Christ should suffer…”
Luke 24:13-16,28-35 “Was it not necessary that the Christ should suffer…”
John 5:24-29 “Whoever hears my word and believes has passed from…”
John 6:37-40 “All who believe in the Son will have eternal life…”
John 6:51-58 “All who eat this bread will live for ever….”
John 11:17-27 “I am the resurrection and the life.”
John 11:21-27 “I am the resurrection and the life.”
John 11:32-45 “Lazarus, come out.”
John 12:23-28 “If a grain of wheat falls on the ground and dies…”
John 12:23-26 “If a grain of wheat falls on the ground and dies…”
John 14:1-6 “There are many rooms in my Father’s house.”
John 17:24-26 “Father, I want those you have given me to be with me…”
John 19:17-30 “Jesus bowed his head and gave up his spirits.”
Less Commonly Used but Appropriate Readings
|Proverbs 31:10-13, 19-20, 30-31
Song of Songs 8:6-7
Isaiah 35:1-6, 10
Isaiah 41:8-10, 13
|Romans 8:3lb-35, 37-39
Romans 14:7-9, l0b-12
I Corinthians 15:20-23, 24b-28
I Corinthians 15:51-57
2 Corinthians 4:14 -5:1
1 Peter 1:3-9