Funeral Preparation

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Funeral Preparation and Pastoral Care of the Dying

Ministries We Provide

Anointing for the Dying and Spiritual Guidance for loved ones of the dying*

Funeral Mass and Graveside Service

Funeral Luncheon

Spiritual Guidance for grieving persons*

Bereavement Ministry

*The Pastor and Deacons are available to help talk through the personal spiritual struggles that can arise from losing a loved one. Please note, however, that these individuals are not counselors or psychologists and that they may recommend to a person seeking guidance that a professional counselor or psychologist may need to be sought out for further assistance.

The Funeral Process at OLPH

  1. After the initial meeting with your funeral director, he or she will give OLPH a phone call to inform us of your desire to host a funeral in our Church. Soon after that initial contact you will be contacted by either our Church Secretary or Director of Liturgy to schedule a planning meeting for the funeral liturgy. You may also be contacted by a volunteer of our luncheon ministry if you indicate to your funeral director or our staff that you wish to host a luncheon at OLPH. 
  2. Planning the funeral liturgy will be done during a meeting with our Director of Liturgy. To help with planning the funeral liturgy of your loved one, we have provided suggested readings, petitions, and songs as well as a sample worship aid for you to review prior to the meeting.  Please know that due to time constraints we may not be able to provide a worship aid for every funeral.

Sample Worship Aid

The Purpose of the Church’s Funeral Liturgy and Rites

Christians celebrate the funeral rites to offer worship, praise, and thanksgiving to God for the gift of a life which has now been returned to God, the author of life and the hope of the just. The Mass, the memorial of Christ’s death and resurrection, is the principal celebration of the Christian funeral. Through the funeral rites the Church commends the dead to God’s merciful love and pleads forgiveness of their sins. At the funeral rites, especially at the celebration of the Eucharistic sacrifice, the Christian community affirms and expresses the union of the Church on earth with the Church in heaven in the one great communion of saints. Though separated from the living, the dead are still at one with the community of believers on earth and benefit from their prayers and intercession. At the rite of final commendation and farewell, the community acknowledges the reality of this separation and commends the deceased to God. In this way it recognizes the spiritual bond that still exists between the living and the dead and proclaims its belief that all the faithful will be raised up and reunited in the new heavens and the new earth, where death will be no more.

Bereavement Ministry

Our Lady of Perpetual Help Bereavement Ministers act on behalf of the parish to extend consolation and compassion to the families of the deceased in our community.  We are not a support group.  We introduce ourselves at the funeral home to the family and present them with a sympathy card from Our Lady of Consolation Shrine in Carey, Ohio which will enroll the deceased for a year of masses.  We have a member present at the onset of the funeral mass to assist families with direction, etc.   We provide information on support groups if there is a need.  We maintain contact for one year with the family contact through cards and telephone calls.  The most significant of our mission is our involvement in the All Souls Service liturgy on the 1st Sunday of November during the 11:00 AM Mass.  We also sponsor a Remembrance Tree during Advent.  Angels are made with the names of those deceased in the past year and placed on the Remembrance Tree.  A remembrance bookmark is also mailed to the families at the beginning of advent.  At the one year anniversary of the death, we send a One Year Anniversary of Death card.

As ministers of consolation our duties are not complicated, but they do require a prayerful and compassionate person who can be sensitive to the grief that comes with someone is called forth from this world.

Funeral Luncheon

We are able to accommodate a luncheon of up to 75 people. If you are interested in having a luncheon at Our Lady of Perpetual Help, please indicate that to your funeral director and volunteers from our funeral luncheon committee will be in contact with you. Please continue reading for important details regarding a luncheon.

Funeral Luncheon Policies and Guidelines

  • The family is asked to provide the main course. Typically that would mean a meat of some kind and a bread. Our volunteers will provide paper products, beverages, side dishes, and desserts.
  • For a luncheon to be provided, the funeral liturgy or service must take place at OLPH. Strictly funeral home services do not qualify for a luncheon.
  • For a luncheon to be provided, the deceased must be a registered parishioner of OLPH.
  • For a luncheon to be provided, there must be a minimum of 20 people and no more than 75.
  • Funeral luncheons are only held in our meeting rooms. For logistical reasons the cafeteria and gym are not made available.
  • We are sometimes asked if our funeral luncheon committee will help to serve or set up at on offsite location. Out of respect for our volunteers and their ministry, the Church only asks that they volunteer for luncheons held at OLPH.
  • Out of respect for our school families and volunteers, the family and guests are asked to leave the building by 2:30 PM.
  • Please know that there may be times when it is not possible to hold a luncheon at OLPH for various logistical and scheduling reasons.
  • We are a no smoking campus.

Suggested Funeral Readings

A Catholic Funeral follows the same format as regular Sunday Mass and includes one reading from the Old Testament, one reading from the New Testament, and one reading from the Gospels.

*Other Scripture passages can be presented to the presider for approval.

**Non-Scripture readings cannot be read in place of these readings, but could be used in the worship aides or through some other means.